Flexisexual: the word for "straight" people too famous to be queer
I've been sitting on this article for the past few days too disturbed to formulate a post: Dawn of the flexisexual: The new word for the women who refuse to play it straight. If the title isn't irksome enough, you can read through the rest of the article to see how Britney Spears, Madonna, Katy Perry and Lindsay Fucking Lohan are shaping sexuality for women. You can even gawk at the pictures.
-
According to Louise Eccles of Daily Mail U.K., flexisexual "refers to people who have a sexual preference but refuse to be bound by it." She goes on to reference celebrity women's relationships with other women to enforce her theory:
Hollywood actresses Angelina Jolie and Drew Barrymore, both 35, have been open about being attracted to women and having flings with them. Jolie, who is now with Brad Pitt, has admitted having a sexual relationship with actress Jenny Shimizu.
Twice-married Barrymore has been quoted as saying: ‘Being with a woman is like exploring your own body, but through someone else.’
Eccles conveniently forgets that there are a myriad of sexual orientations and identities that encompass multi-gender attraction, including bisexual, queer, pansexual and omnisexal. These words, and the people they describe, have been around for a long time, and yet somehow we must develop new words for straight people who can't wrap their heads around a person who may be attracted to more than one gender. It's another example of queer folk being redefined by the majority in terms that make sense to them. It's as if a woman in a relationship with a man must be straight, and any expression of attraction to women previously was a fling, frivolous, and a deviance from her straightness. It trivializes queerness and is offensive.Eccles quotes a survey by Coco de Mer that of "6,000 women surveyed...said their favourite fantasy was to have sex with a woman." Yeah, they must be flexisexual. It can't be because any of them are gay, bi or queer.Additionally, Louise uses Lindsay Fucking Lohan to add credence to her theory, who apparently kisses on girls because it's "on trend." Yep, nothing I like more than a person who uses their arm candy for social advancement.But what irks me the most is tone of the article, as if, for these courageous and unfettered straight celebrity women, kissing women is no big deal. They're "confident with their sexuality," enlightened, and unlike the rest of us, aren't bogged down by the appearance of homo acts. But, if these women were really, truly confident in their sexuality, why does it seem as if there is a fear with being labeled bisexual? Or queer? Why is heterosexuality the root of their attraction?Because this confidence is rooted in privilege, and the "straight" women flirting with other women find comfort in being able to maintain their power. They can be among the edgier of the straight people instead of the banal of the queers.